FUNDAMENTAL FACTS YOU SHOULD KNOW ABOUT WORRY
Rule 1: If you want to avoid worry, do what Sir William Osler did: Live in “day-tight compartments.” Don't stew about the future. Just live each day until bedtime.
Rule 2: The next time Trouble – with capital T – backs you up in a corner, try the magic formula of William H. Carrier:
a. Ask yourself, “What is the worst that can possibly happen if I can't solve my problem
b. Prepare yourself mentally to accept the worst – if necessary.
c.Then calmly try to improve upon the worst – which you have already mentally agreed to accept.
Rule 3: Remind yourself of the exorbitant price you can pay for worry in items of your health. “Those who do not know how to fight worry die young.”
BASIC TECHNIQUES IN ANALYZING WORRY
Rule 1: Get the facts. Remember that half of the worry in the world is caused bby people trying to make decision before they have sufficient knowledge on which is to base a decision.”
Rule 2: After carefully weighing all the facts, come to a decision.
Rule 3: Once a decision is carefully reached, act! Get busy carrying out your decision – and dismiss all anxiety about the outcome.
Rule 4: When you, or any of your associates, are tempted to worry about a problem, write out and answer the following questions:
a. What is the problem?
b. What is the cause?
c. What are all possible solutions?
d. What is the best solution?
HOW TO BREAK THE WORRY HABIT BEFORE IT BREAKS YOU
Rule 1: Crowd worry out of your mind by keeping busy. Plenty of action is one of the best therapies ever devised for curing “wiber gibbers”
Rule 2: Don't fuss about trifles. Dont permit little things – the mere termities of life – to ruin your hapiness
Rule 3: Use the law of averages to outlaw your worries. Ask yourself: “What are the odds against this thing's happening at all?”
Rule 4: Cooperate with the inevitable. If you know a circumstance is beyond your power to change or revise, say to yourself: “It is so; it cannot be otherwise.”
Rule 5: Put a “stop-loss” order on your worries. Decide just how much anxiety a thing may be worth – and refuse to give it anymore.
Rule 6: Let the past bury its dead. Don't saw sawdust.
7 WAYS TO CULTIVATE A MENTAL
ATTITUDE THAT WILL BRING YOU PEACE AND HAPPINESS
Rule 1: Let's fill our minds with thought's of peace, courage, health, and hope, for “our life thoughts make of worrying about it.”
Rule 2: Let's never tryto get even with enemies, because if we do we will hurt ourselves far more than we hurt them. Let's never waste a minute thinking about people we don't like.
Rule 3: A. Instead of worrying about ingratitude, let's expect it. Let's remember that Jesus healed ten leapers in one day – and only one thanked Him. Why we should we expect more gtatitude than Jesus got?
Rule 4: Count your blessings – not your troubles!
Rule 5: Let's not imitate other. Let's find ourselves and be ourselves, for “envy is ignorance” and “imitation is suicide.”
Rule 6: When fate hands us a lemon, lets try to make lemonade.
Rule 7: Let's forget our own happiness – by trying to create a little happiness for others. “When you are good to others, you are best to yourself.”
HOW TO KEEP FROM WORRYING ABOUT CRITICISM
Rule 1: Unjust criticism is ofte a disguised compliment. It often means that you have aroused jealousy and envy. Remember that no one ever kicks a dead dog.
Rule 2: Do the very best you can; and then put up your old umbrella and keep of the rain of criticism from running down the back of your neck.
Rule 3: Let's keep a record of the fool things we have done and criticize ourselves. Since we can't hope to be perfect,lets ask for unbiased, helpful, constrctive criticism.
6 WAYS TO PREVENT TO PREVENT FATIGUE
AND WORRY AND KEEP YOUR ENERGY AND SPIRITS HIGH
Rule 1: Rest before yyou get tired.
Rule 2: Learn to relax at your work.
Rule 3: Learn to relax at home.
Rule 4: Apply these four good working habits:
a. Clean your desk of sll papers except those relating to the immediate problem at hand
b. Do things in the order of their importance.
c.When you face a problem, solve it then and there if you have the facts necessary to make a decision.
d. Learn to organize, deputize , and supervise.
Rule 5: To prevent worry and fatigue, put enthusiasm into your work.
Rule 6: Remember, no one was killed by lack of sleep. It is worrying about insomnia that does the damage – not insomnia.
book of : Dale Carnigie,
HOW TO STOP WORRYING AND START LIVING